I thought that was quite well-reasoned. I believe that, in general, people get caught under not only their general tendency to be worried about sexuality due to a variety of societal influences (especially if raised in a conservative household) but also because they're uncertain of what it really means to pay attention to boundaries - the boundaries that matter are the ones that apply in our life interacting with other people directly, whereas what's considered acceptable in something one makes are quite different and much more arbitrary. That's where the urge to not make what /you/ want becomes so awkward and comes in - the urge to self-censor for the sake of success or something. Of course, if you want to make something lots of people will enjoy and won't dismiss on principle, or to try to convince people who aren't like you, there's a certain value to figuring out what people will "let down their defenses" around and try to interact with earnestly - but it's important to remember that just because people will often be dismissive about stuff doesn't mean you can't communicate with people who'll get a lot out of it by being totally earnest. And self-censoring oneself to try to get those people who'd dismiss you is more likely to mean you've weakened your creation into something not even you like for the sake of people who might not even glance at it anyway. It's important to be honest with one's self.
massive fan of this essay, thought of these couple of passages from this review of uncharted 4 while reading it:
thanks so much for writing this. it's really hard 2 let go of that sense of embarrassment at expressing a genuine feeling/obsession/fetish but i'm getting there and it's very worth it. kill not the part of you that is cringe, kill the part that cringes!! much love<3
i am using pervert both literally and metaphorically here; the criticism of irony culture etc and the penultimate closing paragraph mentioning "perversion for nonsexual topis and themes" support this reading of it not being exclusively About Sex but, as the tweet quote suggests - the same passions drive both. (although for me personally and in the context of an increasingly puritanical culture, it is primarily a stance About Sex.)
not to take away from the rly good answer but also as an asexual (or at least on the ace spectrum), i am one hell of a pervert in a sexual way too xD (asexuals be different though!)
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I thought that was quite well-reasoned. I believe that, in general, people get caught under not only their general tendency to be worried about sexuality due to a variety of societal influences (especially if raised in a conservative household) but also because they're uncertain of what it really means to pay attention to boundaries - the boundaries that matter are the ones that apply in our life interacting with other people directly, whereas what's considered acceptable in something one makes are quite different and much more arbitrary. That's where the urge to not make what /you/ want becomes so awkward and comes in - the urge to self-censor for the sake of success or something. Of course, if you want to make something lots of people will enjoy and won't dismiss on principle, or to try to convince people who aren't like you, there's a certain value to figuring out what people will "let down their defenses" around and try to interact with earnestly - but it's important to remember that just because people will often be dismissive about stuff doesn't mean you can't communicate with people who'll get a lot out of it by being totally earnest. And self-censoring oneself to try to get those people who'd dismiss you is more likely to mean you've weakened your creation into something not even you like for the sake of people who might not even glance at it anyway. It's important to be honest with one's self.
love this!!!! put into words what I was thinking but struggling to articulate, thank you for this!
massive fan of this essay, thought of these couple of passages from this review of uncharted 4 while reading it:
thanks so much for writing this. it's really hard 2 let go of that sense of embarrassment at expressing a genuine feeling/obsession/fetish but i'm getting there and it's very worth it. kill not the part of you that is cringe, kill the part that cringes!! much love<3
This was a great read, thank you so much <333
Fantastic read! To piggyback off ChellayTiger though, asexuals can be perverts in the more traditional sense. There are many kinds of asexuality.
you must have a fetish for writing good essays
Great read! Question about how asexuals and how they fit into this. Are they also "perverts" when they get really into their stories?
i am using pervert both literally and metaphorically here; the criticism of irony culture etc and the penultimate closing paragraph mentioning "perversion for nonsexual topis and themes" support this reading of it not being exclusively About Sex but, as the tweet quote suggests - the same passions drive both. (although for me personally and in the context of an increasingly puritanical culture, it is primarily a stance About Sex.)
-AUE
I see! Thanks for the wonderful response!
not to take away from the rly good answer but also as an asexual (or at least on the ace spectrum), i am one hell of a pervert in a sexual way too xD (asexuals be different though!)
fear is the art killer, love this
yes… ha ha ha… YES!
this is a really fun read and im definitely checking what kind of games you have now
Awesome essay, required reading basically